tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post6143093549621533166..comments2023-09-22T07:36:02.136-05:00Comments on Krista Phillips - Author: A big fat (literally given my big ol' belly) failure!Krista Phillipshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10772828583379163612noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-40635426797932998952010-03-27T11:32:41.405-05:002010-03-27T11:32:41.405-05:00Amen!!! We go through the stages of grieving. Then...Amen!!! We go through the stages of grieving. Then pull up our big girl panties and move on.<br /><br />Sometimes the victory goes to the one left standing :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-71651548117838720132010-03-27T10:44:52.069-05:002010-03-27T10:44:52.069-05:00Tina! I totally get you. It IS like every other co...Tina! I totally get you. It IS like every other contest, and it totally IS subjective. In the Genesis last year, I got 2 scores in the 90's and notes that they loved my MS... but one score in the 60's that tore it to shreds. <br /><br />Really, I was talking about ANY contest, ANY place were we feel like we failed. I "failed" at two contests last year too. I "failed" when I got that rejection letter last week.<br /><br />But I "aced" it when 2 agents asked for a full.<br /><br />I'm not saying I'm a failure at writing all together. I AM saying I "failed" to final in the 2010 GH contest. And really, I'm at stage 10 now. (I was about a 6 when I wrote the post Thursday night though, HA!)<br /><br />My point is, in the moment, we "feel" like failures. We "feel" sometimes like giving up. But, for me, it gives me hope to know that if I just march on and not wallow there, I can overcome and come out a better write because of my failure.Krista Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10772828583379163612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-15947718133300681142010-03-27T10:01:56.468-05:002010-03-27T10:01:56.468-05:00I beg to differ, but the Golden Heart is like any ...I beg to differ, but the Golden Heart is like any other contest. It is subjective. It is judged by your peers and there is no criteria in place for the judges who judge except a piece of paper with rules. <br /><br />This makes it wholly subjective. I have finaled twice. I have NOT finaled more than a dozen times. <br /><br />I have never finaled with my manuscript that sold. <br /><br />Ruth Logan Herne has never finaled and yet she SOLD all three books that did not final back to back to Steeple Hill last year.<br /><br />Harlequin SuperRomance author Trisha Millburn finaled in the Golden Heart 8 times before she sold. <br /><br />This doesn't downplay the wonderfully talented writers who did final. We are all thrilled for them, however it is still a contest. <br /><br />And if your baby isn't appealing to this year's judges it is certainly possible that they weren't wearing the right glasses and maybe next year your baby will be a standout to the judges.<br /><br />Don't give up, and don't let a contest the yardstick of your writing. The Golden Heart is icing on the cake, but it is not the cake.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-22349110794548111312010-03-26T21:59:32.910-05:002010-03-26T21:59:32.910-05:00Krista, you definitely have a handle on the stages...Krista, you definitely have a handle on the stages. I've been through them all numerous times. When I began entering contests in 2007, I put my four manuscripts out there a total of 34 times. Yup. I was determined to learn, but, wow, was it ever a painful process. I managed to final a few times, but there were 26 times in a one year period I didn't. Can you say glutton for punishment?<br /><br />Yesterday, I was reminded of that experience as I thought of the many writers eager to receive a call but didn't. And I cried. Often. Gwynly wondered what was wrong with me. All I could say was that I was sad because I knew many of my friends were hurting, and I ached for them.<br /><br />I wish I could reach out and give you a great big hug, Krista, but you'll have to settle for a cyber variety. ((())) I believe in you and have faith good things are in store. I'm eager to celebrate with you.Keli Gwynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13236868298400593688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-26222853095088344892010-03-26T19:39:01.730-05:002010-03-26T19:39:01.730-05:00Krista, I don't even have to enter a contest t...Krista, I don't even have to enter a contest to feel like a failure! All I have to do is think about all the time I've wasted when I could have been writing. Or all the times I didn't meet word count goals. Or...fill in the blank. In my head I know I'm not a failure, but in my heart it sure feels like I am some days.Carol Bruce Colletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13273953990318465742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-81706671952421363842010-03-26T16:40:20.044-05:002010-03-26T16:40:20.044-05:00Aubrie: Yes, sometimes it does seem like a game of...Aubrie: Yes, sometimes it does seem like a game of chance! But I know that it's really anything but:-)<br /><br />Katie: TOTALLY right! They don't have to go in that order, and sometimes we repeat steps, lol!<br /><br />Jody: Yes! The key is to get beyond it.. not let it stop us! It's so tempting in the midst though...<br /><br />Portia: It's funny, 'cause I'm the opposite! It HELPS for hubby to console me and give me a pep talk... LOL. I think we're all different that way!<br /><br />Layinda: I TOTALLY understand!!! Just 6 more stages and you're good to go!<br /><br />Susan & Jason: THANKS!<br /><br />Susan M: Yes! Victory!!! Makes me want to break out in my slightly off-key version of "Victory in JESUS!"<br /><br />Maria: Yep! We'll win that war yet, girlfriend!<br /><br />Patti: awww! Such GREAT compliments, THANK YOU!!! I *heart* your blog too!<br /><br />Anne: So glad my failure can make you laugh!!! LOL! And yes, it DOES make you feel bad. Like when a boyfriend dumps you and your best friend says, "DOn't worry, he was ugly anyway!" :-)Krista Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10772828583379163612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-85446322809537016472010-03-26T12:23:46.223-05:002010-03-26T12:23:46.223-05:00Aww, I'm sorry but as usual I love your funny ...Aww, I'm sorry but as usual I love your funny post. I think you nailed all the stages. If it makes you feel better I'm not even familiar with that contest and i think you rock!Tanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10518718614911804428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-33103431954229222632010-03-26T11:04:39.910-05:002010-03-26T11:04:39.910-05:00Wow! You really nailed the description, Krista.
I...Wow! You really nailed the description, Krista.<br /><br />I love your blog because:<br />your writing shine.<br />you aren't afraid to let emotion peek from behind the clouds and wave.<br />you tackle REAL subjects.<br /><br />Blessings<br />Pattipattihttp://www.pattilacy.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-48222428426881059262010-03-26T10:51:13.157-05:002010-03-26T10:51:13.157-05:00I know how you feel, Krista! I entered the Cheerio...I know how you feel, Krista! I entered the Cheerios' Spoonfuls of Stories contest and my story was rejected, too! I love my story and plan on shopping it around in spite of the initial rejection. You're absolutely right, we just lost a minor battle, but we CAN win the war! Have a blessed weekend!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11475395753533265087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-66136952956820362772010-03-26T10:28:25.531-05:002010-03-26T10:28:25.531-05:00Failure is definitely tough to deal with. I think...Failure is definitely tough to deal with. I think your list sums it up nicely. The Victory stage sure feels good when you finally get there.Susan R. Millshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09578747592345750650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-84701873420922654952010-03-26T10:23:29.187-05:002010-03-26T10:23:29.187-05:00Excellent post, Krista. You seem to have nailed e...Excellent post, Krista. You seem to have nailed everything!Jasonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11061304417023335698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-35625203291619138122010-03-26T09:27:37.410-05:002010-03-26T09:27:37.410-05:00Oh, Krista, you did a great job on this post. This...Oh, Krista, you did a great job on this post. This article would be great for The Christian Communicator. <br /><br />You nailed the stages. I recognized every one of them. <br /><br />Blessings,<br />Susan :)Susan J. Reinhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461276857852409546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-33613403716574792512010-03-26T08:52:49.977-05:002010-03-26T08:52:49.977-05:00This couldn't have been a more perfectly timed...This couldn't have been a more perfectly timed post. I just got a rejection on a partial last evening, with the comments that it was "a really interesting beginning and had wonderful detail," but that they didn't love it ENOUGH to want to rep it. I think I'm at stage four!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-21377477333561223682010-03-26T08:15:17.812-05:002010-03-26T08:15:17.812-05:00This is completely true, and well said. I have to ...This is completely true, and well said. I have to add, when I first get bad news I can't talk about it. I might tell my husband, but he knows to let me alone for a few hours to "grieve" before I can talk about what I plan to do next.Portiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13435815819572442582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-34693459565897278162010-03-26T08:06:56.181-05:002010-03-26T08:06:56.181-05:00Great post, Krista! I think we really do feel like...Great post, Krista! I think we really do feel like a failure--at least initially. We question ourselves and wonder if we really have what it takes. But as you said, we need to move through the stages and not let it keep us from pursuing our love of writing!Jody Hedlundhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424307540530719614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-33135787485047837862010-03-26T05:57:04.034-05:002010-03-26T05:57:04.034-05:00That's a pretty accurate depiction of what I g...That's a pretty accurate depiction of what I go through, although I jump from one to the other in no logical order.Katie Gansherthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150375338556869812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8885384159016667608.post-33000413748697210722010-03-26T05:29:30.345-05:002010-03-26T05:29:30.345-05:00There's so many failures that I feel likes its...There's so many failures that I feel likes its a lottery game and I have to keep entering to get something eventually. Don't feel bad :) Keep trying :)Aubriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10884036126491922530noreply@blogger.com